Should You Ever Say the “L-Word” First?

You’re a woman dating after 40 hoping to find true love. And then the moment of magic finally happens: this wonderful guy sweeps you off your feet and turns your world around. However, his moves don’t seem to go beyond the borders of friendly – no hints of going to the next level, no formal confession. But the clock is ticking and you can’t wait to know if he feels the same way about you. Between you two, should you ever be the one to confess your love?

While we are in a modern world, the better thing still, is to wait for the guy to tell you those three words. This might seem old-fashioned, but just read the following reasons and then decide for yourself:

Saying “I Love You” first can pressure your guy

Guys enjoy relationships that are going nice and smooth. If you suddenly rock the boat with your confession, don’t be surprised if some of them will wilt away. Your confession can make them feel pressured, as if you’re forcing them into commitment with you.

You, as a woman, should be the one to be pursued

Even though you are already bursting with your feelings, wait for the guy to pursue you. Do not deprive yourself of the pressure of being courted and pleaded for your love. After all, when you and your man get married, guess who’s supposed to submit? It’s you! So, while you’re not in that stage yet, cherish the moments that you have your guy at the tip of your fingers.

You might not be ready to receive an undesirable response

Yes, you let him know about the burning ardor in your heart, but what if his response is not what you expected? Will you still hold on to your confession? You cannot turn back time after saying those words; so, if you really want to confess, make sure you are ready for whatever answer you might get.

But maybe, you aren’t looking for any answer in return.

In any case, he might be just waiting for the perfect moment to tell you. As you wait for that glorious moment, be the best you can be. Always remember that a guy who is good enough to deserve you will have the courage to take that first step.