Are fear and jealousy big factors when it comes to your dating problems? Has an ex-beau ever told you that you are way too jealous? Do you find yourself distancing yourself away from possible relationships because of fear? You do not have to feel condemned – both fear and jealousy are normal human emotions. However, their pervasive nature can make it hard for you to find true love and build an awesome relationship with the opposite sex. The trick then is to find a way to overcome them and make it last.
Jealousy is mainly caused by fear. We fear that others’ beauty is superior to ours. We fear that our men would give us up over young bombshells. We fear that our past failed relationships make us less of a person. When you’re dating over 40, you can easily be tormented by such feelings. However, choose to overcome them.
First, acknowledge the problem.
Face yourself in the mirror, and just admit that fear and jealousy tend to get the best of you. The sooner you acknowledge the problem, the sooner you find the solutions.
Second, love yourself.
Yes, this phrase been said so many times that we don’t know what it means anymore. You have to value yourself, as unique as God made you to be. Focus on your strengths and take a hold of them. Discover who you are and be secure in it!
Third, stop comparing yourself with others.
Comparison is never ending – you are always better than someone, but there will always be someone better than you. To win over fear and jealousy, do not even go near the borders of comparison. Instead of constantly minding other people’s advantages over you, focus on what you have and continue to build on it.
You have every reason to be confident; you’ve got every willpower to break away from fear and jealousy. If you want to find a boy or girl even in such an advanced age or after a divorce, a strong sense of self and security will be very essential. The more secure you are with yourself, the more secure your relationship will be. As we cannot give what we don’t have, let us strive to always build love and trust within ourselves so that we can give it to other people as well.